See what happens with Mr.BackPocket Chick is that he craves a relationship, he probably would one day love to be in a full committed one, but there is a mental block. It could be a past(or several) relationship that failed him, he doesn't feel his life is in order to properly have a good relationship, or it could be he is just simply still "playing the field". Miss BackPocket Chick can be doing everything right, but again the "what if" factors starts to play and he is most likely pondering how green the grass is over on the other side of the fence.
I say he is selfish because as much a Miss BackPocket Chick puts out for him, he doesn't do the same for her. She is expected to change her ways, while she must adapt to his ways. He has a complex view on life and how it should be for him, and Miss BackPocket Chick is probably asking for too much which aggrevates him sometimes. But let me make this clear...Mr.BackPocket Chick is not the VILLIAN. He is just misunderstood.
Mr.BackPocket Chick is not a bad guy at all. Mr. BackPocket Chick is a very lovable guy at times, otherwise why would Miss BackPocket Chick want a complete jerk? There is gotta be something she adores about him. I am going to tell you want it is. Miss BackPocket Chick adores everything that Mr.BackPocket Chick doesn't even realize. No matter how many times he mad her mad, she understands the good side of him. She sees the strong potential in a future with him, even if he doesn't see that potential in himself yet. Mr. BackPocket Chick might be going through a transistional period in his life right now that cause him to be a bit selfish and maybe not appreciate the good Miss BackPocket Chick puts out, because he is probably still trying to finding himself!
Dont treat her like you wallet that is in your backpocket; you take it in and out of your pocket at your lesiure. She is a human being with strong emotions for you. She is not your sideline, your mistress, your play toy, she is the woman of your affection. You spend time with her, you must enjoy her otherwise she wouldn't be around in the first place. But here is the thing, if you are not ready for a commitment then do not do the things with her as if you are going in that direction. She believes the things you say and hope that one day you are going to coming around.She only wants the best for you and even if you cannot see yourself with her, appreciate what she has done for you. If you do see yourself with her, then do the right things and show her that she is not just a backpocket girl. She should be YOUR GIRL. You can't just have your cake and eat it too. She has her cake and shares it only with you.
You need time. Being the logical complex male creature that you are you need to think about it. What do you want in a woman? Are you looking for stability or are you still searching for more fish in the sea? Do you see yourself with Miss BackPocket Chick but want the freedom of other things until your ready? Know this, you will always get whatever you want when you seek it with a pure heart. Miss BackPocket Chick did everything with a pure heart for you and she deserves better than how you treat her. Everything happens for a reason, and its up to you to make your life solid in all areas in your life.