Monday, April 5, 2010


Are you an unloveable person? Is there an IceBox where your heart used to be? When someone loves you do you give them the “cold-shoulder”? Many people are just HARD people to love. No matter what a person does, they cannot receive love that is given to them.

I think our society has screwed our world’s definition of Love. Love is sometimes used as a bad word or only used correctly in certain movies, which can seem fake and “only-in-the-movies” is that gonna happen in our daily lives. Its hard because more and more everyday people feel like the do not know what real love is and what it feels like anymore.

People sometimes can compare love to their first relationship or their first heartbreak. When you first experience what loves feels like from someone other than a family member or friend its so liberating & its almost like the happiest you ever been. You smile more, you are more trusting, you are excited and life seems like it really worth living because you now know what love is and you have it! But this is when love is destroyed, when that energy of love has you in such a high state of happiness & its taken away from you due to a breakup then there is a heartbreak! Sometimes people hearts get broken so badly, they believe its never gonna be the same again and that maybe they do not want to experience love again in FEAR of losing it. So there are people who self-sabotage themselves and make things hard for others to love them.

People get into relationships expecting the worst, or when things get too good they will point out the bad just to justify how things aren’t going to work. People’s expectations are real low when it comes to love so when someone does love them it becomes rejection. So to protect themselves they reject and look for flaws & point out the negative? Or simply they just start thinking “I DON’T TRUST this person to love me properly” because they are premeditating to be disappointed in be loved.

Someone could show them all the love in the world they every wanted or prove to them that someone loves you to the same or higher magnitude than people in the past has, but its still a rejection there. They hold onto past hurt so if a person is giving them too much love or affection it gets cancelled out because they do not want to believe in it. They want something bad to happen so they can point out how love always disappoints them.

It’s a sad way of thinking. We were born to love & experience it. When we first fall in love its like we are born again looking at the world in a different light because it’s the best experience & feeling to ever have. When its taken from us, sometimes we are fearful to experience again so that we do not get teased and lose that feeling again. So instead of accepting & being open to love again, the rejection process takes over so that one doesn’t get their hopes up. Its that pride in some people that getting their hopes up is a bad thing. Read that again “Getting your hopes up”. Why wouldn’t someone what to have their hopes up…so you rather have your hopes down?!

This society molds us into believing we should have lower expectations and have our hopes down. Love is something we should never have lower expectations about and expect our hopes to be down in! We should embrace it and be happy to have it in our lives. If someone is showing us love and affection we should be so appreciative because some people take years to find someone that cares about them at all. We take people for granted; especially the ones that love us the most, because have a reverse way of thinking. We believe the people who do not care about us have our best interest and the ones who love us will hurt & disappoint us.

Open you eyes. Please stop rejecting love if it’s in your life. You were born to love and to experience it. Do not let some bad past experiences disturb your present & future. If you are receiving it look at it as a gift because there are so many people in the world who are no as fortunate to have people who care & love them. If someone loves you love back & be open to receive more love than that. Love is limitless so stop giving it boundaries!

Learn: Learn to love & accept love. Love is beautiful do not believe in the lies that love leads to heartbreak & disappointment. If you accept love in your life and be honest with what you feel then you can open your heart to what is real. You should run to love not run away from it. Give love another chance or you will miss out!

1 comment:

  1. I wish everyone could read this and actually understand the meaning....I have the exact same thoughts about love and pple call me crazy....this world we live in is so backwards. It's unfortunate.